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This very moment will never come back… This moment invites me to taste to see to feel to be present fully present… This moment holds all moments that came before… This moment holds all the transformations that are still to come… Savoring this moment, being calm, being still… Even when on the outside the stormsContinue reading “This very moment…”

Trauma bond A bond and attachment that happens During traumatic experiences is a “trauma bond”. It sets a pattern of seeing danger everywhere, of creating drama, and anticipating and participating in trauma on a regular basis. Relationships with a trauma bond are often exhausting, toxic, dependent and chaotic. Healing a trauma bonded relationship needs toContinue reading

(A tribute to Thich Nhat Hanh who died yesterday January 21, 2022 at the age of 95 ) Breathing in Breathing out My loved one arrives in my breath I invite him in. Present, my loved one’s breath Merges with mine. My mind has been transformed by the one I loved. My feelings, my heartContinue reading “When a loved on dies”

“This inner void” Feeling empty inside Incomplete, Yearning, Missing something or someone But not being sure what or whom… My inner child’s wounds Feel like an empty spot Right at my heart or in my gut, Feeling the neglect, Feeling the abuse, Yearning for attention, for acceptance, For the love that makes one feel wantedContinue reading “Homecoming”

My mind starts racing, telling me all the things I have to do… I refuse to let my mind take over, I breathe deeply and relax my body. My feelings kick in, stirring in me old wounds, fears and worries… I refuse to let my feelings take me over, I breathe deeply and relax myContinue reading “As I wake up…”

You are not what happened to you… You are more than the sum of your pain or injuries: You are the Spirit that sees and heals the pain. You are not what abusive and neglectful voices tell you about yourself: You are the beautiful Spirit and Body that walks away. You are more than youContinue reading “You are not what happened to you…”

To anyone who has grown up in a narcissistic system, who got injured by a narcissistic partner or who suffered any other kind of abuse or neglect: You deserve safety You deserve respect You deserve privacy You deserve that your basic needs are being met You deserve compassion You deserve tenderness You deserve the rightContinue reading “You Deserve…”

“I have done my best today -and the rest, I forgive”… So much has come at me today, so many tasks, challenges, people… I have met everything as best I could, and what I have missed – I forgive… I let my feelings come and honor them the best I am able, and those thatContinue reading “I have done well…”

She did not have a mattress, Only the lower part – and that was wood. It was cold in the house But thankfully they had a roof – and water. Born in 1940, she had grown up with little. And now there was nothing in the fridge And her son had Covid, sleeping in theContinue reading “A different Manger…”

“I did not know I need safety” Many people are experiencing multiple losses in their families. Others are living in traumatic circumstances, so used to abuse, devaluation and manipulation, that safety, vulnerability or intimacy are not something they know. As our culture and world are going through more than two years of complex trauma, theContinue reading ““The Word is so dark right now””