When we grow up in not safe environments
physically or emotionally,
we develop a judgmental attitude –
either towards others as “not being safe”,
“not being good enough”,
“not meeting our standard or our needs” –
or we turn against ourselves,
judging us as “stupid”, “deficient”,
“not good enough” or “a failure”.
Neglect, abuse and traumatic environments
create this unsafe space of judgment.
Therapy can become a judgment free zone,
a safe space to explore, learn, observe, remember
and make meaning.
We practice non-judgment with ourselves first,
and then also with others.
Accepting our past that we cannot change,
while developing compassion
for the child, teenager and young adult we were –
this creates a safe space.
We develop a new secure attachment
first with ourselves,
and then also with others
who share this non-judgmental space
and compassionate attitude with us.
Welcome to this safe space…