Going Home to Family

Nothing is better than going home to family and eating good food and relaxing. Irina Shayk

Meditation: My daughters and I have travelled to Germany to see their grandmother, uncles, aunts and cousins. We try to come every year if possible, as living in the United States we do not have any extended family members around. There are often two sides to family visits: On the one hand the reconnecting during happy and relaxed times together, good food, storytelling and laughter. And then on the other hand possible moments of discord when memories return of someone hurting another family member and also present moments when a family member becomes intrusive, judgmental or hurtful towards another. Most families experience both, deep joy and feelings of connection and deep pain and feelings of disconnection. At times we need to allow and endure the distancing from certain toxic family members as to protect ourselves. We can still pray for them, but we do not want to expose ourselves to them. Other times we can find ways of forgiving each other and reconnecting with each other. We need wisdom to know how much distance and how much closeness is life-giving.

Prayer: God, I thank you for family. Thank you for my extended family members who share my story and who remember my past. Thank you for the opportunity to travel from afar to be together. I pray for wisdom to know how much closeness and how much distance is helpful. I also pray for the ability to forgive each other. We are all human. We all fail each other. Help us to apologize when we fail each other and to reconnect if possible. And if family members are too toxic to be around, let us still pray for them, if only from a distance. Amen

Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. Colossians 3:13