When The Best Friend Dies…

The bond between friends cannot be broken by chance; no interval of time or space can destroy it. Not even death itself can part true friends. John Cassian

Meditation: It has been six months since my best Kindergarten friend died. I saw her last a year ago when I visited her in Germany. At the time she battled cancer for the second time. Today I talked to a dear friend who just lost her best friend to a traumatic sudden death. The loss of a friend is like a gaping wound. It is so sensitive that it hurts just having air touch it. Losing one’s friend is like losing a limb. We will always feel this part of us missing that cannot be replaced. At the same time, in the midst of our tears, we experience a smile when we think about them. We even laugh recalling moments we had together. At times we can see their faces and even hear their voices. While we feel the pain that an amputee feels, we also experience a bond that cannot be broken. There are “love strings” that remain, no matter what. At times we feel overwhelmed and even guilty for living on. We wonder, “how can our life continue when their life does not?” “How can we laugh and hug our children, when they are no longer able to do so?” And then we close our eyes and hear their voices saying to us: “Hug your children and if you can, hug our children as well for us. Live your life, laugh and live to the fullest in remembrance of me. Just don’t forget the special bond we share.”

Prayer: God of love, in times like these when tears stream freely, and when we feel like our eyes and hearts “are constantly leaking” because of the gaping wound where our friends had been before, we come to You for comfort. We bring to You the pain of our gaping hearts, the sorrow we feel for our friends’ families and the heartache that won’t go away. Heal our broken hearts. Embrace our friends with Your light and Your love. Let them know how much they are loved. And based on the warmth in our hearts, we believe that they know. And we feel a gentle moment of comfort and of hope in the midst of our grief. Amen

I thank my God in all my remembrance of you. Philippians 1:3