Letting go helps us to live in a more peaceful state of mind and helps restore our balance. It allows others to be responsible for themselves and for us to take our hands off situations that do not belong to us. This frees us from unnecessary stress. Melody Beattie
Meditation: Sometimes we want to solve complex issues overnight. Letting go of the urgency to solve those issues will help us find peace, as many of them are not even ours to begin with. Sometimes we obsess about other people’s issues and problems. Letting go of feeling responsible for others’ lives will help us recover our peace. At other times we get entangled in another person’s chaos and we forget where we end and the other person begins. Letting go of the chaos that is not ours will help us find calm and hope for our own life. And then we spiritually surrender our complex issues, other persons’ problems and other people’s chaos to God. None of those issues are ours any longer, because they were not meant to be ours to begin with. Joy and peace will return when we practice daily (possibly hourly) surrender. We detangle ourselves. We discover where we end and where others begin. We identify what is our own problem and therefore our own responsibility and what is not. New hope can enter when we are no longer filling our life with other people’s issues. And no, it is not selfish to set healthy boundaries. No, it is not selfish to let go and protect ourselves from anything that is turning out to be toxic. No, it is not selfish to no longer allow to be manipulated and used. And yes, we are meant to experience deep joy and deep peace as people who belong to God.
Prayer: God of joy and God of peace, You are teaching us to let go of problems that are another person’s to address and solve. You are freeing us from over-functioning and from over-responsible behavior. We entrust those we worry about to your care. But we no longer allow them to use us to stabilize themselves and make themselves feel better, while we feel worse and depleted. God, in helping us set healthy boundaries we learn to say “No”. “No” as the most freeing word, filled with joy and filled with hope. Amen
May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit. Romans 15:13 (NIV)