Married Not By Chance But With The Help of God’s Spirit…

We are not the same persons this year as last; nor are those we love. It is a happy chance if we, changing, continue to love a changed person. W. Somerset Maugham

Meditation: My husband and I have been married for 20 years. Attending his daughter’s wedding gave us the opportunity to also renew our wedding vows with each other. Although we both have changed a lot in many good ways, at the same time we have not changed at all. We still struggle with some dynamics that have been there from the beginning. Our personality differences still collide at times, and we still miss each other at times in significant ways. At the same time we feel deep love and respect for each other, admiration and tenderness. This 20th anniversary year we are called by God’s Spirit to attune and attend to each other more than ever in all the years before. We are called to truly renew our marriage, which will take time. I am looking forward to a year of prioritizing “us”. We are planning on taking intentional times away and create safe spaces to be with each other away from the stressors of daily life. We don’t want our love to be “a happy chance”, but we want it to be “happy (and challenging) work of change”.

Prayer: God of love, we thank You for the gift of love, the gift of change and the gift of renewal. I pray that You help us and all couples who are married for many years to renew our love for each other and to continue to work on things that need to change, so we can truly be happy with each other. Help us, so we don’t leave it up to chance, but to Your patient, gentle and humble Spirit to help us change as we need to as a couple, so that our love will have a future. Amen

With all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. Ephesians 4:2-3