Every time God forgives us, God is saying that God’s own rules do not matter as much as the relationship that God wants to create with us. Richard Rohr
Meditation: I don’t know about you, but Germans like rules and regulations. At any street intersection (without a red light) Germans always yield to the person that comes from the right. This person no matter what has the right to drive first. This makes life easy. Or does it? In the US there is more negotiation involved. Usually the person who stops first is allowed to drive first. But at times, somebody would allow (by hand gesture) the other person to drive first. One model insists on the law no matter what, the other model has some rules in it, but relies on relationships and communication to work things out. In some ways God wants to be the one negotiating with us, being in relationship with us and figuring things out together with us, instead of just being the rule enforcer, the law giver and judge. As parents we also constantly come to intersections with our teens. If we opt to uphold the rules no matter what, we might be “right”, but we will likely lose the open communication with our teens. In my experience parenting based on the “forgiveness model” works much better. We uphold clear guidelines while at times also negotiating. This way we remain in trusting and forgiving relationship with our teens whose job is to push against rules and boundaries to find out where they end and where others begin.
Prayer: Relational God, we thank You for valuing Your relationship with us more than insisting on upholding Your rules. Thank You that Your rules are meant for us people, and not us people for Your rules. Thank You that You look us in the eyes. Thank You that You forgive us when we overstep Your rules. Thank You that we are Your partners in driving on the road of life. Amen
Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. Ephesians 4:32