The Mark of a Good Marriage…

The mark of a good marriage is when only one of you goes crazy at a time! Heinz Kohut

Meditation: I remember when our twin girls were little. My husband and I would exchange babies at half point between our workplaces in the parking lot. One of us would be coming from work, the other one would be going to work. A quick kiss, and off we went. I also remember times when one of us had a major loss experience and went into deep grief. The other had to handle both children alone until healing had taken place and new strength had returned. I remember moments when our lives were so busy, that we would meet again late at night in bed. The only energy we had left was to hold each other. Marriage is this strong invisible bond. It is this knowing about each other in the midst of the busiest day. It is the thought of the other that brings a smile to one’s face. It is the waiting to hear the garage open after a long day. It is the moment of sharing, listening, laughing and crying when we are coming back together after having had separate experiences all day. It is the calmness of knowing that you are walking in the same direction after all. It is the trust that at the end of the day you are still the most important person for each other. And that you will be best friends forever.

Prayer: God, thank you for twenty years of marriage. Thank you for all those ordinary days that looking back were special, because they were part of the larger tapestry of our marriage. Thank you for those times as partners and parents that have shaped who we are and that in hindsight were uniquely ours, even when they felt so “normal” at the time. Send us Your loving Spirit, so we will cherish each other even more as we enter the next twenty years. Let us continue taking turns being strong and weak, and help us enjoy the experience of  complementing each other even more, now and for as long as we shall live. Amen

Two can accomplish more than twice as much as one, for the results can be much better. If one falls, the other pulls him up; but if a man falls when he is alone, he’s in trouble. Also, on a cold night, two under the same blanket gain warmth from each other, but how can one be warm alone? Ecclesiastes 4:9-11