What Makes a Friend?…

Social media has given us this idea that we should all have a posse of friends when in reality, if we have one or two really good friends, we are lucky. Brene Brown

Meditation: Social media is a great medium to know things about people. When relationships are interrupted by time or space, Facebook can be helpful to stay connected. However helpful the photos and images on Facebook, Snapchat and Instagram might be to stay in touch, they are limited in truly providing friendship. Friendship requires shared time and space. It needs these moments of intimacy that can’t happen via a photo and its captioning. As we lower our expectations of internet “friendships” and increase our search for friendship in real time and space, we will probably be more satisfied. We need this rare experience of being known and knowing the other, which is so important for any true and intimate friendship. Personally,  my best friend is still my younger sister. Even though we have been living in different continents for 20 years (and we need the telephone to be able to talk to each other), she knows me best. With her I can share my deepest feelings over the phone . What makes our friendship real is the depth of knowing each other.

Prayer: God, thank you for the experience of true friendship, for being known and for deeply knowing another. Help us to not expect from social media what it is not able to provide. Let us search for and invest in one or two close friends who will know us deeply. Thank you for providing clouds of witnesses who know things about us, although they can’t be as close friends as we sometimes need. Thank You for providing us with a friend or two who laugh with us, crie with us and who plead for us. Amen

My intercessor is my friend as my eyes pour out tears to God; on behalf of a man (s)he pleads with God as one pleads for a friend. Job 16:20-21