“Can emotional love be reborn in a marriage? You bet. The key is to learn the primary love language of your spouse and choose to speak it.” Gary Chapman
Meditation: As we partners change over the years, so our “love language” evolves. Maybe earlier we needed more words of affirmation or concrete gifts as signs that we are loved. As we get older, we might desire more to be listened to attentively and without interruption or distraction. Touch might also become more important as we get older. As spouses we need to evolve and grow. We need not think that we know exactly what our partner needs. We all change. Do I know what I need today to feel loved? Am I aware what love language my partner prefers? Acts of service might mean more or less to us than when we were younger, yet we might still appreciate words of tenderness. Why not take a moment today to get in touch with our primary love language? Why not share with our significant other the love language we especially cherish in the current phase of our lives?
Prayer: Gracious God, Your love relationship with us evolves as well over time. We need different ways of being loved by You as we age. Maybe earlier we were worried about our relationship with You and needed much explicit affirmation. Nowadays, we might have a less “wordy” relationship with You and enjoy more non-verbal ways of being in Your presence. Whatever we prefer, however we live our love for You and have need for Your love in our life, You know us. You adjust Your ways of loving us. And we are grateful. Amen
“No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.” 1. John 4:12