“The First Love of Teenagers”…

When you discover first love as a teenager, your whole life revolves around it and you open yourself up to it. Patrick Dempsey

Meditation: When is it OK for our teenager daughters to start dating? This is the question that revealed to my husband and I once again that we come from different cultures, have different stories and hold different areas of anxiety. Our values, ideas of freedom, boundaries and restrictions that parents need to set or allow – all were suddenly on the table in new ways. As parents we struggled at first with how to negotiate our differences of opinion. We then found common denominators. We talked with our teen daughters about being honest and authentic in all relationships, about physical boundaries and about freedom and safety. We decided to trust our daughters. As parents of younger teenagers we remain present and available while providing a safe space in which they can discover and experience feelings of first love.

Prayer: Parent God, we are grateful for Your values. Be present as we are being stretched and challenged to grow as parents of teenagers. Take our anxiety and fill us instead with trust and confidence that we will figure things out alongside our children as they mature and grow. Let the same Christian values and principles apply to our children that apply to us. Thank You for the freedom You extend and the trust You have in us and in them. Thank You that You want for all of us wholeness of body, mind and Spirit. Amen

You say, “I am allowed to do anything”–but not everything is good for you. You say, “I am allowed to do anything”–but not everything is beneficial. 1. Corinthians 10: 23