Letting go of our need to control can set us and others free. It can set our Higher Power free to send the best to us. Melody Beattie (author: “Co-dependent no more”)
Meditation: When we suffer within chaotic circumstances, we can get caught in the obsession of having to fix things and needing to control our environment. We often are too anxious not to. Our past taught us that unless we control things, life will be chaotic. Especially families that struggle with addiction often bring forth in their members this obsession to control. When we become dependent on the need to control others, our environment, ourselves and even God, we become very limited. As we try to keep life predictable by influencing or even manipulating every aspect of it, we pay a high cost: we lose touch with our true selves. As we bind our energy around others’ behavior and obsess about what others do or don’t do, our sense of self gets lost or becomes entangled with others whose destructive behavior we try to prevent, fix or adapt to. God wants to set us free from our need to control. God wants to detangle our life energy that got caught in this obsessive cycle. God will set us free and will help us recover.
Prayer: God of freedom, take our anxiety and our sense of having to control things. Help us to let go. We give to you our helplessness, our negative predictions, our fear of losing the person who is self-destructive and our guilt about having limitations. Thank You that we don’t have to be in control. Thank you that You will set us free again and again from the illusion we could save, solve, absolve or heal the other person. Thank you for saving and absolving us and for setting us free. And thank you for wanting this freedom for everybody, including the persons we worry about most. Amen
It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery. Galatians 5:1